This week we discuss the gift of chaste love ― What it is, what it isn’t and how we are called, as men and women, to live this virtue in our daily lives.
By: Erin Healy
I want to say thank you for three things.
With media outlets abuzz this week concerning Florida State freshman quarterback De’Andre Johnson, who is making headlines for his maltreatment of the fairer sex, I was pleasantly surprised to hear of your recent interview at The Rock Church in San Diego, discussing, among other things, your decision to stop having sex before marriage and, as you said, “do it Jesus’ way.”
Thank you for being a real man. In a culture that endorses sex on demand, you choose to practice abstinence, and in doing so espouse your own dignity and the dignity of all women. Thank you for showing the world that there is more to a man than his sexual desires and that dating relationships don’t necessitate premarital sex. Mostly, thank you for living out the words of Ephesians 5 before you’re even married:
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and handed himself over for her to sanctify her, cleansing her by the bath of water with the word, that he might present to himself the church in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.”
Thank you for being courageous. In a culture that mocks the principles of Christian dating and rejects the possibility of abstinence, you deny your passions and speak the truth and love that the virtue of chastity seeks to promote. Thank you for having the strength to lead your relationship toward God, even if that means taking sex out of the equation.
Thank you for being faithful. In a culture that tries so desperately to separate Christ from His teachings, you understand that His call is not for the things of this world, but that we are ultimately made for something greater (Heaven). Thank you for reminding us that we need God, prayers and support of our community to live out our call as Christians because God didn’t say it would be easy and we should do whatever we want, He said:
“Whoever does not carry his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple” (Luke 14:27).
Thank you for your witness.
And, best of luck in your upcoming season, but not too much. (I’m a Chiefs fan.)
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